Archive for the ‘But I digress…’ Category
Girls of a Certain Age started on April 3, 2012 (here’s the very first post) and somehow, I let its fifth birthday whiz by without even noticing. So I’m taking a moment to belatedly thank all of you for making this such a lively, happy enterprise. To all the die-hard commenters—Viajera, DeDe, Mamavalveeta, Joanna, Y.K., C.W., Dana D, Suz, Jhops, Hick from the Styx, Adrien, Gables Girl, Mae, Caroline, Raina, Caroline, Ann, Heather, and I’m SURE there’s somebody I’m leaving out, so please forgive me if so—thank you for being the soul of Girls of a Certain Age. For keeping conversation so lively, witty, smart, and—most of all—so very, very kind. To all of the rest of you commenters, thanks a million for everything you have to say. Your words amuse and enlighten me, and—on days when I’m feeling down and lonely—lift me. And if you’ve never commented, thanks for stopping by on the regular. Knowing that you’re all out there makes my life truly rich.
Photo by Nan Goldin
I did, and am currently writing that chapter of the book. It was when my marriage was well and truly dead and I was looking for a way out—an “Exit Affair,” they’re called (and before you judge, you’ll have to wait and read the book to see what kind of behavior my husband was up to at the time). How about you? Have you ever? Or even come close?
The lovely people at Clare V threw a party for me and GOACA last fall, and those of you who attended know it was a gas. Clare Vivier herself attended, and she was lovely to everyone, and I had the best time hanging out with and getting to know those of you who came out for it. There are few things I love more than meeting my readers, which is why I’m so excited that they approached me about doing another party to celebrate spring. It’s on April 20, from 6-8 at their Nolita store, which is at 239 Elizabeth Street. Do come! We will have so much fun, as those who attended the last one can attest. Best of all, all Clare V items will be on offer for 20% off—just for the two hours of the party!—and you can’t beat that.
I went to Oberlin with Claire Dederer, author of the most excellent memoir, Love and Trouble: A Mid-Life Reckoning, but we didn’t hang out: different crowds. Still, I have admired her writing career since college and am in love with this new book, which is both laugh-out-loud funny and quite tender. Anyone looking for an examination of middle-age that is acutely written and not rife with cliches needs to pick this up. And now it’s your turn: What can’t you put down?
As you know, I’ve been working on the book. And it’s slow going, in part because I think getting started on a book is a bit of a haul in the beginning, and in part because I just haven’t established the right routine yet, and—not that surprisingly—writing a book seems to call for a different routine than doing this blog. So I put it to you: how do you get yourself in the zone when there is important stuff to get done?
The anchor is a symbol of sobriety
I’ve started working on the book, and am currently writing about going to rehab, which I’ve done, twice. It was a life-transforming experience for me—even more so for having to repeat it—and writing about it got me wondering how many of you out there in the GOACA community have struggled with addiction too. My issue was with alcohol, although I’ve smoked my weight in pot over the years as well. What was your demon, and how did you kick it? I’m also curious: Are you in AA or NA, or have you sought alternative support?