Thursday 29th June 2017
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A career guide for people who don’t read career guides

I briefly mentioned this book in the links a while back, but that didn’t seem like quite enough attention to pay to something so great: my pal Jennifer Romolini is getting a ton of good press for Weird in a World That’s Not, and it is well-deserved (and I do not just say that because I appear prominently—and unnamed—in her chapter about working at a big-time fashion magazine). Anyone who’s interested in reading the story of one woman’s anything-but-straight path to the top of her field, written in a hilarious and achingly human voice—will want to pick this up. By the end, you’ll wish you were her friend, and I’m so happy I am.

Posted on June 20th, 2017 2 Comments

Were you a Sassy reader?

I’m just curious, because my hunch is a decent number of you were devotees of the greatest teen mag of all time (if I may say so), and I’m beginning to plumb the depths of my memory for that chapter of the book, digging through old copies and such. Tell me what the magazine meant to you, what the most memorable features were, who your favorite staffer was (it’s OK if it was Christina and not me; everyone loved Christina best).  And what was the best cover, in your opinion? I find it impossible to choose just one, but this was right up there.

Posted on June 14th, 2017 132 Comments

Happy birthday, Mom

My mom Eve turns 80 today. Here is a picture of her and my dad that I’m guessing is from some time in the 70s. A family friend posted it on Facebook just yesterday, and I’m including it not because of the wonderfulness of my parents’ union—they divorced—but because I think she looks so beautiful here. My mother is—cliche but true—a beautiful person both inside and out, a person whose only ambition for her children is that they be happy and make their own dreams come true. She charms people wherever she goes. I’ve been inspired by her independence, her engagement with the world, her humor, and her kindness. She took up meditation in her 70s. And—admirably—did not crater when my stepfather died, but stayed active and beyond lively: last New Year’s Eve, she went to three parties—that’s three more than me—and does not want for suitors, even though she’s got little interest in them. For over 30 years, she’s been my only parent: I haven’t always been easy, and she’s handled the worst that I can dish out with grace and dignity. I love her a lot, and you would too. She reads this blog every day, so join me in wishing her the best, won’t you?

Posted on June 1st, 2017 80 Comments

Are you dating?

Photo by New York street photographer Arthur Leipzig, who was also my mom’s first cousin

It takes a lot of courage and stamina to put yourself out there, and I am frankly not always up for it. I go through periods when I don’t date at all, and periods when I do, and right now I am in an on period. Sometimes it’s impossibly fun—who doesn’t love making out with someone new?—other times, not so much. I’m curious to know how many of you who are single are dating, and how you do it. Are you fixed up by friends? Do you go online or use apps? Have you retained the services of a professional matchmaker? Do you find it a joy or do you view it as a job? I want to hear all.

Posted on May 23rd, 2017 85 Comments

Did you never have kids?

Me and my favorite baby, Gino

As most of you know, I didn’t, and will be writing about that in the book, because the fact that it I’m not a mom has shaped who I’ve become as an adult in some important ways. To those of you who also didn’t get around to parenthood: was it by choice, circumstance, or—like me—some complicated combination of the two?

Posted on May 11th, 2017 133 Comments

A personal note

Girls of a Certain Age started on April 3, 2012 (here’s the very first post) and somehow, I let its fifth birthday whiz by without even noticing. So I’m taking a moment to belatedly thank all of you for making this such a lively, happy enterprise. To all the die-hard commenters—Viajera, DeDe, Mamavalveeta, Joanna, Y.K., C.W., Dana D, Suz, Jhops, Hick from the Styx, Adrien, Gables Girl, Mae, Caroline, Raina, Caroline, Ann, Heather, and I’m SURE there’s somebody I’m leaving out, so please forgive me if so—thank you for being the soul of Girls of a Certain Age. For keeping conversation so lively, witty, smart, and—most of all—so very, very kind. To all of the rest of you commenters, thanks a million for everything you have to say. Your words amuse and enlighten me, and—on days when I’m feeling down and lonely—lift me. And if you’ve never commented, thanks for stopping by on the regular. Knowing that you’re all out there makes my life truly rich.

Posted on April 24th, 2017 62 Comments